May 12, 2010

Eustress

In many phases in med school, i have experienced numerous heartaches and failures. It was especially hard on me because i was thrown out of my "ordinary" into a rather dark, and secluded territory. It has left me feeling utterly hopeless, but this time it won't stop me from being better.

Quite honestly, the only thing i regretted about the past is how i dwell and worry about every single thing but failed to actually develop a plan to face the challenges. The reason behind this is probably due to the fact that the spirited feelings to 'fight' tend to disappear as quickly as it came; and from that point on, we forget what it feels like to actually be in the bottom. We really do. We forget and thus, we stopped fighting.

We learned in class today that failures and stress, usually starts with denial. Eventually, we tend to put the blame on things (or people) that/who might have caused us to fail. What we ultimately failed to do is, to look back and say, I should have done better.

That "I should have done better" must be transformed into something positive in the future. Easier said than done right? But the least we can do, is try.

Don't be deceived by the luxuries and respect that we superficially get, when what really matters, is the neverending will to be better (spiritually, physically & mentally) and to transform that stress into something positive. As for everything else, it will come into place, insyaAllah.

Start now. This instant, and face those challenges bravely.

13 comments:

fatin FIONA said...

i like this.thankyouuuu mal :)

malinaramlan said...

no problem darling :)

udienjai said...

All the best Malina Rihan :)

~yon~ said...

mal....still...urm...dh try harder, do better...outcome sama jerrrr....nak giv up dah....waaaaaa="(

malinaramlan said...

Sudin: and to you, too! :)

Yon: Hahaha that problem is something yang sampai skrg pun mal x tau mcm mana nak jawab. haha Tapi if give up now, we're only gonna go the opposite way? kan. Just kena find that strength, and kita move on together :) Hugs2!!

Leonard said...

salah teknik kot. kalo sejak dulu guna teknik belajar yang sama tapi tak mendapat hasil yang didambakan, kenalah berubah sikit. mintalah tunjuk ajar dari pro-pro seperti cindy atau william. semua orang dilahirkan sama :) cuma ada yang lebih kacak/cantik daripada orang lain tapi otak semua orang sama

KecHiQuE oLiGoS said...

i like leonard's comment *even ada rasa ragu2 betol ke leonard yg komen bila ada word mendambakan* :P

words from cindy;
'Everyone around us will fall.. Some fall so many times that they got sick of it.. The most important of all, after every fall, no matter how much injuries did we suffer, we will still stand up.. Gain the spirit and try our best to be better'

semangat kawan2.. masih ada waktu...

ain said...

eustress indeed. thank you mal. :)

somehow, when other ppl say it, the words become more sensible and in one way, possible. tq.

malinaramlan said...

leonard, well said! :)

malinaramlan said...

izyan, there's always time. bila rasa macam takde time pun, mesti ada. just that we tend to prioritize other things. hehe (mcm scenario 1 tutorial la pulak) hehe

malinaramlan said...

Ain, anything is possible. Just kena face it bravely and dengan semangat yang kuat. Mal always kat belakang Ain. Sayang Ain!

:)

nadiya said...

"What we ultimately failed to do is, to look back and say, I should have done better."

what if i tell you that is the only thing i do when i look back but it just ends up crushing my will to fight?

hahaha.. you'd say: NADIYA! get a life! hahahahahahaha
which of course you won't. malina. where do you learn to be insightful????? hahaha

malinaramlan said...

Hahahah insightful la sangat. Just stating what is obvious for me. And of course having such a contrast in personality, you, Nadiya, are unique. You'll find your way. And i ADA dengan you okaaayy syg. Hugs!